Handling The Loss Of A Loved One While Wedding Planning

Today I’m chatting with Kalei. We worked together at the University of Washington Admissions Office about 5 years ago. It’s a friendship that was forged over many long hours in the office and many fun happy hours afterwards. She was a guest at my wedding in 2016 and I attended her wedding the next year in 2017. I feel so fortunate to have her as a friend and that she was willing to come on the podcast and share her and Tristan’s wedding planning story because it’s honestly not an easy one to discuss.

About 2.5 months before their wedding they received news that Tristan’s dad was diagnosed with cancer, and just 3 weeks later he passed away. During this time, I remember talking with her about the wedding and how hard it was to balance the range of emotions they felt on a daily basis, and how difficult it was deciding how to incorporate something so heartbreaking into their wedding day in a meaningful way, without it casting a shadow over their celebration.

Like I said, this isn’t an easy topic to discuss, but Kalei does it was so much grace and wisdom. She articulates what it was like balancing happy and sad emotions, the understanding her and Tristan needed to have to prioritize wedding planning during this trying time, and how they decided to honor his father on the wedding day in a way that felt right for them.

For anyone going through the loss of a loved one, or wanting to honor someone that’s no longer with us on their wedding day, take comfort in knowing you’re not alone. It’s one of the many reasons Kalei wanted to share their story, so other couples would feel less alone and confused about how to proceed with wedding planning after the loss of loved one. Her advice is sweet and light-hearted for such a heavy topic, and I feel honored that we can shed some light on this topic on the podcast.

In this week's Q+A segment, I answer: “How do you recommend we order and time things like father/daughter and mother/son dances during the reception?”


Featured vendors: Ballard Locks (ceremony venue), Peddler Brewing Company (reception venue and drinks), Lisa Monet (photography), Veraci Pizza (catering), and Pike Place Market (bridal bouquet).


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